It is not good for man to be alone. 

One of the first things God says about us.

But so often we live alone. Why? Why do we neglect the people around us and instead, turn inward. Why do we isolate?

Because it feels safe. It feels like a way to protect ourselves from all the people who can’t be trusted with the mess that is our lives.

At least that’s why I do it. It’s easier to manage myself, my problems, and my emotions on my own. It’s easier to keep everyone else out, in a separate box of my life. 

But while that may lead to a life that feels safe, it does not lead to the abundant life Jesus wants for us. 

So how do we experience this abundant life? We have to be vulnerable and real with the people around us.

Brene Brown, a shame and vulnerability researcher (it’s a real thing), writes this in her book Daring Greatly.

“Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.”

But vulnerability doesn’t just happen. It is a series of choices and it is one choice in particular.

You must choose to trust people. To believe that not everyone is out to get you. You may get burned once in a while, but it will be worth it in the end. I can promise that. 

So make your choice. 

It is not good for man to be alone.

So stop living like you are.